- By Lisa Macias
Working with teenagers can feel both rewarding and challenging for families and for therapists. Your child is growing quickly, figuring out who they are, and often wanting more space from the adults in their lives. Even if they don’t always show it, parents remain incredibly important during this stage of life.
In therapy, it’s developmentally normal for teens to want:
- A space that feels like “theirs”
- Support in understanding emotions, identity, and decision-making
- Room to become more independent, which often involves pulling back a bit at home
This doesn’t mean you’re any less essential, it simply reflects a natural part of growing up.
Staying Connected as a Parent
Even as teens push for independence they still need you, just in ways that may be changing. Therapy can support parents in adjusting how they stay connected with their teenager by:
- Encouraging open, respectful conversations at home
- Shifting from directing your teen to supporting them as they take on more responsibility
- Understanding what’s typical for this age, and what may need closer attention
- Helping you process your worries and fears out of earshot of your teen, so you can shine your faith on them while in their presence
Balancing Privacy and Collaboration
One of the most delicate parts of teen therapy is balancing your child’s confidentiality with your need to stay informed. We work to create a partnership that includes:
- A clear explanation of confidentiality at the start
- Sharing themes and guidance without disclosing private details
- Periodic check-ins so you feel included but not over-involved
- Healthy boundaries that prevent anyone from getting stuck in the middle
Sometimes, being creative in supporting the whole family system is key. For example, you may choose to work with another therapist in our practice. This allows your teen to have their own space while you receive support as well, and the two therapists can collaborate on how to best help your family.
Why Your Support Matters, And Why You May Need Support Too
We often share this with parents:
In the movie Superman, when Superman catches Lois Lane, she says, “You’ve got me… but who’s got you?” Supporting a teen can feel exactly like that. You’re carrying a lot, and it’s important that someone can hold you, so you can hold your teen.
Parent support doesn’t have to be with your child’s therapist—it can be with another member of our team. We consistently see that teens make the most progress when parents also have their own regular support.
Every Family Is Different
There’s no single right level of parental involvement. Culture, family structure, communication patterns, trauma histories, and mental health needs all shape what will be most helpful. Our approach is tailored to each family to provide the most effective support.
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Reach out and request a free 20 minute consultation. We’ll help you find the right fit for your family.