Self-Care Tips for Parents of Special Needs Children

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Self-Care Tips for Parents of Special Needs Children

The concept of selflessness is often seen as a virtue; and yet, if we fail to fulfill our own needs and nurture ourselves, we are less able to help and serve others. As a parent of a child with special needs, you probably spend most of your days so busy with the demanding needs of your family that you neglect to take care of yourself. For parents of special needs children, a little selfishness is an absolute must. In order to give the most of yourself, you have to be your best self. To be at your best, a committed regimen of self-care is a must.

Sleep

Among the most fundamental of needs is rest. Adequate sleep is an essential part of a healthy lifestyle. A full night’s sleep will boost your energy, mood, memory and creativity while lowering stress levels.

Nutrition

Good nutrition is not just a benefit to you as a parent, but it has a long-term impact on your children as well. You’ll teach them healthy eating habits that will carry on into adulthood as you improve your own health and longevity. Keeping your meals and snacks colorful with fruits and vegetables will provide energy and help you stave off lethargy as you boost your mental clarity.

Sunlight

Taking your child on a short walk to the local park or playground will benefit both of you as you get in some much needed sunlight and a bit of exercise. According to the World Health Organization, just five to fifteen minutes of casual sun exposure will provide you with the vitamin D benefits of the sun; this includes a general feeling of well-being along with numerous health benefits.

Support

Play dates are a great way to integrate your special needs child socially, but it also benefits you with some much-needed downtime. Make a list of friends and loved ones you can call or video chat with when you need to talk. Look for community support groups to find other parents in your area you can turn to for advice and understanding. You can also seek the professional guidance of a mental health specialist for additional support.

Meditate

Meditation can seem like an unnecessary indulgence or a waste of time to a busy parent, but numerous scientific studies have proven the many health benefits of meditation. Setting aside just five to ten minutes a day for some quiet reflection can help boost your immune system, manage stress, help you focus and boost your mood, to name just a few of the many health benefits. Meditation is easy, and something anyone can learn. Simply type “how to meditate” into a search engine or on YouTube and you’ll find several guides on how to get started on this simple practice. If you’re a special needs parent and you’re struggling or just need some support, call my office today and let’s schedule a time to talk.

About the Author

Jaclyn Long, LMFT #47100

Founder & Director, Mindful Child & Family Therapy

Jaclyn Long, LMFT, is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, founder and director of Mindful Child & Family Therapy, and a seasoned clinician serving families across Los Altos, Mountain View, San Jose, and Half Moon Bay. Jaclyn Long is a Certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapist, a Somatic IFS Therapist, a Certified Parent Educator and a Certified Yoga & Mindfulness Teacher. She has been supporting children, teens and adults since 2003.

Jaclyn specializes in helping parents navigate the challenges of raising highly sensitive children, supporting maternal transitions, and fostering resilience across family systems. Her approach is warm, relational, and collaborative, blending IFS, EMDR, Hakomi, mindfulness‑based CBT, somatic work, and practical parent coaching. In clinic she often works with families who describe intense home‑based reactions that feel overwhelming; she helps parents translate those moments into opportunities for co‑regulation, skill building, and stronger connection.

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