Jaclyn Long

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist

Founder & Director
Mindful Child & Family Therapist
MFT#47100
jaclyn@mcaft.com
650-297-3400 x 2
Locations: Los Altos and Half Moon Bay
Fee: $250

Specialties:

Adults: Anxiety (generalized anxiety, performance anxiety, hyper-vigilance, worry), PTSD, trauma, early childhood trauma, depression, grief, chronic health issues, chronic pain, mind-body symptoms, life direction, relationships & communication. Optimal performance and fulfillment in sports, work life and family life - as an athlete / professional / parent. Aging, mid-life transitions, caretaking of spouse / parents. Couples, Parenting of anxious / highly sensitive children, Supporting Parents of Anxious Children, Teens & Young Adults Motherhood, perinatal grief, anxiety and maternal transitions.

Child & Teen: Anxiety (performance anxiety / perfectionism, separation anxiety, social anxiety), OCD, self-esteem issues, peer challenges, high sensitivity, emotional regulation & behavioral challenges, tantrums, defiance. Optimal Performance and fulfillment in sports and academics.

Jaclyn Long is a Certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapist, a Somatic IFS Therapist, a Certified Parent Educator and a Certified Yoga & Mindfulness Teacher. She is also trained in EMDR and Hakomi - which are both trauma-informed, body-based therapeutic approaches. Her style is warm, caring and collaborative. While she has a wide array of tools to share, she believes the most powerful therapeutic intervention is helping clients to access the inherent wisdom within them. She is passionate about helping people unburden the extreme beliefs, thoughts and feelings that limit their lives. She is inspired by the deep resilience she continually witnesses within her clients. Jaclyn has been supporting children, teens and adults since 2003. She is the Founder & Director of Mindful Child & Family Therapy, and feels incredibly blessed to be working alongside such an incredibly supportive, wise and compassionate group of clinicians.

Modalities: Certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapist, Somatic IFS, EMDR, Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Hakomi, Psychosynthesis, Trauma Informed

Education & Training

Princeton University, 1998, BA Psychology, Specialization in Neuroscience
Meditation Training, 1999, Vipassana (mindfulness-based) meditation training and 60-day meditation retreat in Thailand
Integral Yoga Institute, 2001, Certified Yoga & Meditation Teacher
Institute of Transpersonal Psychology (Sofia University), 2003, MA Transpersonal Psychology, 2004, MA Counseling Psychology
Mindfulness-Based Insight Yoga & Meditation, 2005, Yin Yoga Teacher Training, Sarah Powers
Parenting By Connection / Hand in Hand Parenting, 2008, Certified Parent Educator
Mindfulness-Based Somatic Therapy, 2010, Hakomi Professional Skills Training
Positive Discipline, 2016, Certified Parent Educator
EMDR, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, 2016, Level 1 and Level 2 Training
EMDR, Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing, 2018, Additional EMDR Training
Chronic Pain: Beyond Pain Management, 2019, Howard Schubiner & Alan Gordon
Mindfulness-Based Approach to Treating Chronic Worry and OCD in Children, 2019, JFK University
Internal Family Systems, 2019, Richard Schwartz
Mindfulness-Based Insight Yoga & Meditation Training: 2019, Yin Yoga Teacher Training Level 2, Sarah Powers
Psychosynthesis of Palo Alto, 2004 – 2020, Psychosynthesis Training
Internal Family Systems 2020, Nancy Sowell
Internal Family Systems: Shame, Anxiety & Depression Level 2, 2021, Mike Elkin & Ann Sinko
Somatic Internal Family Systems Retreat 2022, Susan McConnell
Somatic Internal Family Systems Training 2022, Susan McConnell
Diversity, Equity & Inclusion Leadership Training, 2023, Fatimah Finney
Legacy Burdens & Blessings, Kay Gardner, 2023
IFS & Chronic Pain, 2026, Nancy Sowell

Therapeutic Philosophy

“Be kind. Everyone you meet is fighting a difficult battle.” – Plato

We are all born whole. Certain life circumstances we encounter, however, can cause us to lose touch with essential aspects of ourselves, and can lead us far away from our true Self.

Drawing upon a wealth of modalities, including Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic IFS, Hakomi, Eye-Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing (EMDR) and Mindfulness-Based interventions, I guide clients in accessing their inner wisdom and support them in finding their way back home to themselves. I offer a warm, loving and compassionate presence as I help people move in the directions that are most meaningful and satisfying to them.

I consider it an incredible honor to get to serve as a compassionate companion and a caring guide for people on their journey through life, and that I get to witness the profound power and deep resilience of the human spirit each and every day. Instead of offering cookie-cutter solutions to people’s challenges, I custom tailor the therapeutic process to suit the unique needs of the individual with whom I am working. In so doing, I draw from a variety of modalities, including:

Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Somatic IFS
Mindfulness-Based Somatic Therapy (Hakomi)
Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing (EMDR)
Family Systems
Psychosynthesis
Creative Expression
Play Therapy (for children)
Sandplay (for children)
Non-Violent Communication
Parenting By Connection / Hand in Hand
Positive Discipline

And perhaps most importantly, I listen. Patty Wipfler writes, “When you give another person your full, warm attention, you help their body and their mind move toward better functioning.”

By listening from a grounded, spacious, non-judgmental place, I help to provide an experience of co-regulation as people navigate distressing and challenging life experiences. As interpersonal neurobiologist, Dan Siegel, writes, “Find people who regulate you well, and stay near them.”

I consider it a true honor to walk with clients on their path, and I have learned a great deal from each person who has ever stepped into my office. I am sincerely grateful for the work that I do, which I find incredibly meaningful and deeply fulfilling.

Background

I graduated with highest honors from Princeton University with a degree in Psychology and a specialization in neuroscience. During my time at Princeton, I swam on the varsity women’s swim team all 4 years, was active in the Women’s Center, served as a sexual harassment peer counselor, served as President of the Take Back the Night march, sang and played guitar at open-mic nights and founded a student-run organization to help women at a nearby Halfway House. Upon graduating, I received the “Spirit of Princeton” Award, the “Improving the Status of Women” Award, the “Neuroscience Thesis” Award for the most outstanding thesis in neuroscience, the “Leadership” Award on our Varsity Women’s Swim Team and the “Student-Athlete” Award for the varsity athlete with the highest grade point average.

I had reached nearly every one of my goals. Not only had I gotten straight A’s at one of the best schools in the country, I also contributed as much as I could to the culture at Princeton. Yet something was missing. I had achieved so much, yet I was far from feeling fulfilled.

Over the course of the next few years, I came to realize that what was missing was a supportive and loving relationship – with myself. The one person I spent every day of my life with was very unkind to me, holding me to exceedingly high standards of achievement. I experienced a fleeting sense of relief when I met those standards, and I experienced dread when I didn’t. I learned, over time, that a path of achievement did not equal a path of fulfillment.

When I graduated from Princeton, I served as a research assistant in a prestigious neuroscience lab at UCSF. After one year, I began to question whether or not research was a path I wanted to pursue. I had an interest in meditation and Thai culture, so I decided to serve as a volunteer in a hospital in Thailand and take some time to figure out what I wanted to do for my work life. I was lucky enough to be placed with an incredibly wise and nurturing host mother, Ping, for my volunteer work. Ping and I spent several evenings talking late into the night – with our English-Thai dictionaries in hand – talking about vipassana meditation. I was an engaged and eager student, as I had begun to practice yoga and meditation in 1996 – during my time as a swimmer at Princeton. Ping introduced me to the practice of loving-kindness – a mindfulness meditation that I have practiced ever since – during our late night talks in Thailand in 1999. Lovingkindness has deeply transformed my life, at the heart of which is my relationship with myself.

After my volunteer work was complete, I went on to spend two months training in mindfulness meditation in Thai forest monasteries. The first month I spent 4 hours a day in meditation. The guidelines were: eat little, sleep little, talk little, read little.

The second month, I spent 18 hours a day in meditation, in a hut in Thailand by myself. The guidelines were: no writing, no reading, no talking (except with my teacher). I met with my teacher for only 15 minutes a day, and otherwise I practiced walking mediation for one hour, followed by sitting meditation for one hour and so on, alternating for 18 hours a day. During my time steeped in meditation, I had deep insights into the nature of my own suffering and the drawbacks of an achievement orientation devoid of purpose, balance, self-compassion and wisdom. The relationship with myself and the world around me began to shift.

When I returned to the US, I explored the possibility of studying the neuroscience of mindfulness meditation. But after taking another research position in neuroscience – using MRI brain imaging – I realized that my passion for working directly with people and empowering people with mindfulness and other wellness tools was stronger than my interest in conducting research about the power of mindfulness. I found lab work slow, somewhat dull and dry. It seemed as though something more rich and engaging was calling me.

I enrolled in a yoga & meditation teacher training at the Integral Yoga Institute and became certified to teach yoga and meditation in 2001. At the same time, I also enrolled in graduate school for counseling psychology at the Institute of Transpersonal Psychology (currently Sofia University), with a specialization in creative expression. The experiential education I received in both of these educational experiences was deeply fulfilling for me, as was the focus on community. I came to prioritize community building as an essential ingredient for health and wellness, and I continued to cultivate a more compassionate relationship with myself. I navigated graduate school from a more balanced place, with the intention to sustain a caring relationship with myself and others while immersing myself in an academic environment.

I received a Masters in Transpersonal Psychology in 2003, and served as a counselor for teenagers in crisis at McCauley’s Adolescent Psychiatric Unit in San Francisco for a year. McCauley’s is an inpatient lock down unit for teenagers who are considered a danger to themselves or others. I received a Masters in Counseling Psychology in 2004. I went on to work with underprivileged youth and their families in schools through the Ravenswood School District in East Palo Alto. I learned a great deal about family systems through this work, and how to establish therapeutic connections with children and parents while working with them to promote mental health and wellbeing.

I then established a small private practice in Los Altos while teaching 10 yoga and meditation classes weekly in Palo Alto. During this time, I also began leading yoga and mindfulness retreats – both locally in California as well as internationally, in Brazil, Bali, Hawaii and Costa Rica.

In 2008, I took a 9-month training in Parenting By Connection (also known as Hand in Hand) to become a certified Parent Educator. A few years later, I became certified in Positive Discipline as well. I am passionate about empowering parents with effective tools from both of these parenting modalities.

After giving brith to my son in 2009, I consolidated my schedule and decreased the number of yoga classes I taught each week, to maximize my time with family and increase my ability to work individually with clients as a Marriage & Family Therapist.

In 2014, I founded Mind Body Moms – to promote maternal health and wellness for the benefit of children, families and communities. In addition to offering Mindful Moms groups in Palo Alto, workshops and international retreats, we also raised funds in order to bring our integrative wellness groups to underserved, Spanish-speaking moms in East Palo Alto, Half Moon Bay, Santa Cruz and San Francisco, CA.

In 2018, I founded Mindful Child & Family Therapy. Our team of caring clinicians is on a mission to empower children and adults with tools to establish more compassionate relationships with themselves and others. This has been one of the most fulfilling endeavors I have experienced in my life - not only having the honor of supporting so many clients on their journey through life, but also having the honor of supporting so many clinicians. It has been incredibly fulfilling to mentor other clinicians, and also learn from them as well. Leading a team of wonderful people as we learn and grow together - while also raising a family - has been a highlight of my life.

One of my mentors, John Firman, used to say "It's where it comes from that matters." Although some might say that I have achieved a lot, the focus of the latter part of my life has not been on achievement. Instead, I have been listening deeply within and creating from a place of inspiration and compassionate connection with myself and others. I have been focused on cultivating a caring relationship with myself, my husband, my son, my friends and my colleagues. I have been working with a sense of grace and ease, instead of grasping and striving.

I consider myself a lifelong learner, and I feel deeply grateful for the opportunity to learn from each person and family with whom I have the honor of working.

Thank you for your interest in my journey. I hope I have the honor of walking with you for part of yours.

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