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Intimacy From the Inside Out (IFIO) Intro Course

December 9 & 10, 2023 | 7 am - 3 pm PST, Online

Course Description

Participants will receive an introduction to the Intimacy from the inside Out© (IFIO) model. This course will include lectures as well as live and/or video demonstrations focusing on the protocols taught in the IFIO Basic Training. Experiential activities will be offered to help participants deepen their learning of IFIO principles as well as to explore "trailheads" in their own, internal systems. No previous IFS training required.

Kim L. Bolling, Psy.D is a Licensed Psychologist in private practice in Nashua, NH, working with couples and individuals.

Kim is a Senior Staff Member for the powerful couple modality Intimacy from the Inside Out® (IFIO), which is based on the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model of therapy and personality. Kim is a Certified IFS Therapist and Clinical Consultant for IFS. She has a special interest in neurodiversity, and combines her training as a neurodiverse couples counselor with IFS and IFIO to bring an insight-oriented approach to working with neurodiverse couples. Kim has presented her work at the Annual IFS Conference, and has been a featured guest on the Neurodiverse Love podcast.

Maya Hanelin, LICSW (she/her/hers) is a Certified IFS Therapist and Approved IFS Clinical Consultant who has been working with individuals, couples, and groups for over 24 years.

Having begun her IFS journey over a decade ago, Maya has a tremendous passion for IFS and IFIO (Intimacy from the Inside Out). She has a special interest in working with members of LGBTQIA+ and multi-cultural communities. Maya is a Senior Staff for IFIO and offers consultation internationally. She maintains a private practice in Boston, Massachusetts and is dedicated to helping couples navigate their relationship dynamics with equanimity and compassion.


$400 due by Nov 9, 2023

Target Audience

This course is designed for mental health professionals interested in learning how to apply the Internal Family Systems approach with couples.

Learning Objectives

  1. List the 3 basic assumptions and 2 goals of IFIO
  2. Identify at least two ways to help couples break negative patterns of reaction and response
  3. Identify at least two strategies for helping clients to do a U-turn in the context of couple therapy
  4. Define the practice of courageous communication
  5. Identify at least two ways that therapist parts, including parts that carry implicit bias, can negatively impact clients and the therapy process

Course Agenda

Day 1

7 am - 7:40 am: Intros, welcome, centering, brave space talk, overview of the workshop

7:40 am - 8 am: Assumptions of IFS, what do we want in relationship

8:00 am - 9 am: What is couple therapy? What is IFIO? - Overview

9 am - 9:15 am: Break*

9:15 am - 10:05 am: Therapist parts (experiential) - 20 minutes, Breakout groups of 4 for 20 mins total, 10-minute large group share

10:05 am - 10:50 am: Tracking lecture – includes 10 mins for questions

10:50 am - 11:20 am: Tracking with sample couple (visual)

11:20 am - 12:20 pm: 60-minute break*

12:20 pm - 1:05 pm: Experiential with breakouts to process – Who am I in Conflict? (Groups of 4 for 20-25 mins), 10 minutes large group share 

1:05 pm - 1:20 pm: Break*

1:20 pm - 1:25: Movement

1:25 pm - 2:30 pm: Video Demo of Tracking, Set up – 10 mins, 45 min session, 10 min reflection 

2:30 pm - 3 pm: Q & A

Day 2

7am - 7:30am: Welcome, centering, Large Group check-in, Q&A

7:30am - 8am: Triangles lecture

8:00am - 8:45am: Unblending lecture & experiential

8:45am - 9:00am: Break*

9:00 am - 9:20 am: Courageous Communication lecture - Part 1

9:20 am - 9:50 am: Experiential: Why is listening so hard? (includes breakouts of 2 ppl for 15 mins total)

9:50am - 10:05am: Large Group Processing

10:05am - 10:10am: Movement

10:10 am - 10:45 am: Courageous Communication lecture - Part 2

10:45 am - 11:45 am: 60-minute break*

11:45 am - 1:00 pm: Video Demo of CourageousCommunication Set up – 5 mins, 45 min session, 10 min reflection

1:00 pm - 1:15 pm: Break*

1:15 pm - 1:45 pm: Q & A about Courageous Communication

1:45 pm - 2:30 pm: Intrapsychic work in the presence of the other - lecture & group discussion

2:30 pm - 3 pm: Questions / next steps/closing

NOTE: Asterisk* indicates break segments not included in credit hours


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Course Completion certificates will be awarded at the end of the course in exchange for a completed evaluation form.

Mindful Child & Family Therapy is seeking approval for 13 CE hours. Please check back for updates.

Any and all deposits and/or payments for our retreats/courses are non-refundable and non-transferable. Please note that there will be no refunds for any reason, including illness. Thank you for your understanding.