When siblings fight, it tends to trigger us as parents. Our emotional brain goes on red alert and tells us to stop this bickering NOW!
That is natural – we all get triggered at times. But it is important to acknowledge that we do have choices in those moments, and what we do when we are triggered matters a great deal. The way we intervene when our children are fighting can either help to increase understanding, boost connection and ease tensions between them, or it can set up a dynamic which can actually make future fights more likely. Unless we were raised with parents who modeled the former set of tools for us, most of will react unconsciously in a way that leads to the latter.
The good news is that with reflection, self inquiry, intention and practice, new and more effective tools can be learned. In our work together, we help parents implement these helpful tools, in turn promoting positive relationships among siblings by shifting the unhelpful family patterns that tend to fuel sibling squabbles.
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